Cheating, Schmeating?

Friday Oct 12, 2012 - BY Stacey

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As basically everyone knows, Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson have gotten back together despite the former fessing up to an affair with much older director Rupert Sanders.

 

This may come as a surprise to a lot of people who view an affair as an automatic relationship killer. But why is this sin considered by many to be an immediate deal breaker whereas other ills–such a bad temper or fiscal irresponsibility–are seen as issues to discuss and work on in therapy? Why can’t an affair be like other problems that arise in a relationship–obstacles to overcome in time?

 

Here’s a little snippet from my HuffPo blog post:

 

Once you get past the shock and the hurt (which most of us experience when our partner steps out on us), there can be a kind of exhilaration in “reclaiming” your mate and helping them realize that the connection you have together can’t be beat. Post-affair, a relationship can simultaneously assume a rawness and a fragility that can actually be very invigorating for those couples who have fallen asleep at the wheel.

 

I’m not saying that all infidelities should be forgiven. Some are more serious than others and signify deeper trouble in the relationship. All I’m saying is that an affair, like all other problems that arise over the course of a marriage, should be discussed and overcome if possible.

 

You can read the rest of the post here.

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